Sunday, June 17, 2018
What Can Be Addictive?
Anything can become addictive; food, gambling, exercise, sex, spending, internet, video/computer games, etc. There is a remedy for addictive behavior, addictive substance let's begin the journey of healing!
Whatever form of escapism, if the activity regulates mood and relieves emotional pressures, and needs to be re-enacted time and time again – then the behavior has become addictive.
Addictions at any age begin with a sense of overwhelming and sometimes debilitating stress, depression, fear, or anxiety - leading to emotional escapism. Escaping reality can take many forms; substance, gambling, video games, food, sex, etc. Anything that takes the person “away” becomes a way to self-medicate; the pressures seem to disappear while in the activity. Yet, the cycle of additional always returns.
There is a sense of dis-empowerment in our life for which one seeks outside of self to remedy. We tend to attempt to cope in ways that we find comforting; social isolation (if we are alone we can’t hurt anyone, and they can’t hurt us), anger (unable to express emotions in our relationship, etc.), substance, gaming, and sexual behaviors which are one of the most natural ways in which we seek to self-soothe.
I believe that everything comes down to power and control, healthy power and control or unhealthy adapted power and control. Personal healthy empowerment, the goal behind all of my approaches used with clients. If you or your partner is experiencing negative consequences as a result of the coping behaviors that have been used - know that there is help.
Transformational coaching removes the pathological or pathogenic aspects that the medical disease model of mental disorders prescribes. No longer is the client viewed as ill with a diagnosis in need of treatment. Transformational coaching is a process of implementing critical thinking into action, by testing hypothesis and applying analytical thinking. Transformational coaching develops a working relationship in “creating a future”, rather than “getting over” the past. Trained as a psychotherapist I’ve come to find a more fulfilling approach to helping others through the practice of “Transformational Life Coaching”. Online, telephone or in person.